Protecting children from unhappiness, harm, hurt, bad experiences, pain, and rejection is mostly what overprotective parents do. It sounds like it is admirable when a person hears a parent offering an explanation but people need to have a closer look at the experiences that the children have to go through. It puts the parents in a hard position of admitting what they really fear for their children. The overprotective parents envision fear in most instances and putting the fear on the children leads to a child being anxious and emotional.
The focus of helicopter parenting is not on the kids but on the parents. The time that we are currently living in is highly informed and comparative. In situations where an individual is susceptible, they may find themselves in parenting on the basis of anxiety. Such people hover on every move that is made by their children. In some cases what worries the parents is how the children represent them and not the children. Individuals should be excellent when it comes to parenting which makes them reluctant in seeing their kids fail. Parents need to question themselves if they are really protecting their kids from failing because of being good parents or they want others to get the view of their good parenting.
Overprotective parents give dues to children using credit cards while healthy parenting will let the children work for it. Healthy parenting includes a process of guiding, supporting, and training the healthy growth of a child and emotional, mental and social development in a way that will make the children independent. Parents who speak for their children are overprotective through answering questions that are directed to the children. Such parents give excuses when the child behaves in a bad way and believe that children should be given second chances when they make mistakes.
The parents feel that they have an obligation of assisting the kids in rising to ranks which are socially accepted. Because of the constant talks on how their children are good, it creates a situation where parents look more of agents instead of just being parents. The parents also visit the school that their children are learning so often to make sure that they have updates on their performances. However, children need to be allowed to be children and not create children who are perfectly decorated.
Overprotective parenting leads to the creation of a situation from which kids always try to escape. Eventually they realize that there is no escape because the fears instilled in them are a part of their way of thinking. It is a way that is not effective for raising kids because it will not help in instilling virtues and values in a kid.